Pet Bereavement
Are you coping with the loss of a pet?
You and your pet
When a well-loved family member dies, the loss to us can be very great and leave a big hole in our lives. We may need help in coming to terms with this.
Pets can bring a special presence into the life of you and your family. They provide a loving connection and a way to share our deepest emotions without the needs for words. They are our “welcome home” at the end of a hard day, our link to other pet owners and a part of our daily routine. We go through so much with our pets that they become woven into the fabric of our lives. It is therefore natural that when we lose such a valued friend, it will cause us deep pain, no matter what the species of animal - dog, cat, bird, horse or rabbit.
Grieving your loss
It is normal to feel grief when you lose a pet but sometimes family and friends do not fully understand and you may not be given the support people usually have when a person close to them dies. You might even be seen as odd or crazy for expressing grief for an animal companion. This reaction can add to the pain and trying to hide your emotions and get on with normal life may be difficult. You might also be feeling doubt and guilt over the decision you made to put your pet “to sleep” - especially if you did not have time and support prior to making this decision.
BREAKING THE NEWS TO CHILDREN
It can be difficult to break the news to children that a pet is very ill or has died. Although we may want to protect them, they have a need to grieve and a right to know what has happened. This may also be their first experience of death and if it is handled well, it can provide valuable learning for coping with future loss. When breaking the news to children try to be as honest as possible, using words that they will understand. Encourage them to remember the happy times you shared with your pet and to record these memories through photos, drawings, poems, etc. Other pets in the family may also show signs of upset and need extra attention as they adjust to the changes in the household.
COPING WITH YOUR LOSS
There are a number of things that you can do to help you cope with the loss of your animal companion. You may find the following guidelines helpful, but remember that you are the best person to decide what you need.
- Accept that the pain of this grief is normal and allow yourself time to feel sadness, anger, guilt or whatever it is you need to feel.
- Try to share your emotions with someone who will understand.
- You may wish to bury your pet’s body or scatter their cremated remains in a special place. Having a ritual or ceremony at this time can be a helpful way to mark how much your pet has meant to you.
- Keep a memory box full of favourite toys and keepsakes. Record special memories- put photographs in a scrapbook, paint a picture, write a story or poem. You can also put a photo and story on a memorial website for animals.
- It’s important to look after yourself when you are grieving. Try to take regular exercise and eat well-balanced meals. Rest is important. Set up new routines to replace those you had with your pet e.g. change the time and location of walks. Avoid making any big decisions and seek the company of supportive friends and family.
- It is up to each person or family to decide whether or not to get another pet. Some people choose to do this immediately, while others need time before they can make room in their hearts for a new relationship.
Sometimes grief can seriously affect your sleep, eating habits and ability to cope with life. If this is the case then you might benefit from professional counselling with someone who will understand and value the loving bond you had with your animal companion.
MISSION STATEMENT
It is my vision that pet owners who have lost a beloved pet will not only be able to cope with and heal after the loss of their animal companion, they will also be able to use the loss of their animal friend as a catalyst for personal transformation. This vision is born out of many years of spiritual practice combined with the personal loss of several pets.
My work in Pet Bereavement Counselling combines with a background in energy healing for both people and animals.
As an Animal Healing Practitioner, Reiki Master/Teacher and Animal Reiki Practitioner, I focus on providing support, comfort and guidance for pet owners who have lost a beloved pet, because I understand how heartbreaking it can be to lose a much loved animal companion.
I recognise animals as our teachers and I understand that humans are not separate from, but connected to animals and the rest of nature.
It is my vision that pet owners who have lost a beloved pet will not only be able to cope with and heal after the loss of their animal companion, they will also be able to use the loss of their animal friend as a catalyst for personal transformation. This vision is born out of many years of spiritual practice combined with the personal loss of several pets.
My work in Pet Bereavement Counselling combines with a background in energy healing for both people and animals.
As an Animal Healing Practitioner, Reiki Master/Teacher and Animal Reiki Practitioner, I focus on providing support, comfort and guidance for pet owners who have lost a beloved pet, because I understand how heartbreaking it can be to lose a much loved animal companion.
I recognise animals as our teachers and I understand that humans are not separate from, but connected to animals and the rest of nature.
